shame and money blocks

You think you’re broken.
You think something is wrong with you.

I’ve felt that most of my life.

You know what that is?

It’s shame.

I believe shame is the biggest reason we can’t fully receive what we want in life—

whether that’s love, money, or fulfillment.

Simply put, you don’t feel like you deserve it.

(I genuinely could be wrong, so let me know what you think as you read this).

For me, I’ve had some wildly cringe moments.
Getting rejected by a beautiful woman at a coffee shop.
Getting knocked out as a quarterback in high school by a 235-pound linebacker - repeatedly.
Failing a 2-minute math test on the multiples of 3 in 4th grade.
Plagiarizing an essay my mom wrote for me in 6th grade and getting my first detention.

The list goes on:
Being misunderstood by employers, friends, and girlfriends.
Being called terrible names as a sensitive boy in middle school.
Punching a kid on the bus in first grade and getting kicked off in front of everyone.

All of that has to do with shame.

So… why am I bringing this up?

Because…

…I believe shame is the biggest reason you don’t have the money, love, or fulfillment you want…

…because you internalized those negative beliefs and thoughts (similar to what I experienced or worse) about who you are on a fundamental level and they are still haunting you to this day.

Let’s break it down.

Why don’t you have what you want?

Because, on a subconscious level, it wouldn’t feel right for you to have it.
If you did get it, you’d probably give it away or lose it. You’re not an internal match for that reality.
You don’t feel like you deserve it.

I feel worthy of $5-7k/month in my business, but not $30k—yet. I’m working on it.

Why don’t you ask that person out?
Because you’re afraid of the shame if you mess it up.

Why don’t you feel good about being yourself?
Because deep down, you’re ashamed of certain parts of you that you hope no one sees.

Without shame, you’d go after what you want without fear of being rejected or ‘seen’.

Here’s what I think: underneath it all, you just want to be free of shame.

Why do we feel the need to become rich, powerful, or accomplish anything?

Some say we’re trying to escape the Original Sin of shame.
Others say we’re wired to achieve “just because.”

I think, for most of us, we’re trying to cover up or run from shame, consciously or subconsciously.

It could just be me, though. I could be wrong.

I’m curious what you think.

It’s crazy to consider.

If this reality is perfect, why do we have this thirst to be more, richer, sexier?

Deep down, I think most of us believe:
“I have to work hard and accomplish a lot because I don’t believe I’m lovable just as I am.”

And that’s a tough realization.

But it’s not your fault.
It’s the conditioning of culture, family, and friends that’s programmed you to feel this way.

So if you’re still reading, you have some shame in you about who you are, and you’re wondering what to do about it.

The only answer I’ve found is this:

Get real with yourself about your mistakes, hurtful actions, or anything that’s caused so much shame you’d rather die than feel it.

Write it down. Leave nothing out.
If you’re brave, tell someone— even a priest. Or tell me; people tell me stuff. It really, really helps.

If you don’t want to talk to anyone, tell God (or whatever you believe in) you’re genuinely sorry, and burn the paper.

Next, find a passion project to pour your heart into. Work your ass off and help those who need you.

When I did this with conviction, I received $50k in a day, stopped watching p*rn, and started serving my clients better than ever.

It sounds crazy, but it’s worked ok for me so far.

Of course, I’m still learning.

-true

P.S. what none of those gurus out here will ever tell you because they have a program/course to sell you: I’m not sure if the shame ever truly goes away. But I can still do my work and show up the best I can, even if it’s still there. Hope this helps. Love you.